Exploring Sexuality, Polyamory, and Rationalism | Lex Fridman Podcast #358

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TLDR Exploring sexuality, polyamory, and rationalism can help create meaningful connections and a better future.

Human sexuality and societal norms

  • ๐Ÿ 
    Homeschooling provided Aella with a great setup to figure out what she was good at and pursue skills that are still useful to her today, despite her childhood being difficult in many ways.
  • ๐Ÿคฏ
    Aella challenges the idea of pitting emotion and rationality against each other, instead advocating for their integration and use in discovering the answer through curiosity.
  • ๐Ÿ’ฌ
    Aella suggests tabooing the term "love" to better understand the different concepts it refers to, such as attachment, alignment, sexual attraction, and excitement.
  • ๐Ÿฅณ
    Aella hosts orgies and free-use orgies where consent is assumed by default, with wristbands to revoke it anytime, and gender distribution is usually even, but more men are needed in free-use orgies.
  • ๐Ÿ’”
    Aella believes that monogamy is not always the right choice for everyone and that people should question whether it is truly what they want, rather than defaulting to it because of societal expectations.
  • ๐Ÿคฏ
    The survey on fetishes reveals surprising and taboo interests, but also highlights the beauty of human sexuality and individual orientation.
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    Aella created a comprehensive survey with 850 fetishes and scored it to give participants an equivalent kinky character, including Hitler and SpongeBob.
  • ๐Ÿง
    Aella discusses the nuances of the word "rape" and how it can be difficult to apply to certain situations, highlighting the need for more nuanced language to describe experiences.
  • ๐Ÿค”
    People are way more judgmental of women with high body counts, with many telling Aella online that she won't be able to find a husband because she has sex with too many people.

Sex work and entrepreneurship

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    Aella believes that sex work is a valid form of work and that people should be able to make money in whatever way they choose, as long as it's consensual and safe.
  • ๐Ÿ’ฐ
    Aella explains how sex work is a form of entrepreneurship: "I think sex work is a really good example of entrepreneurship because you're basically selling a product that you create yourself."
  • ๐Ÿค”
    There is a lack of good data on sex trafficking and Aella proposes a method of surveying people to infer the prevalence of sex trafficking, as well as potentially designing surveys to reach victims directly.
  • ๐Ÿ’”
    While clients may fall in love with escorts, it happens less often with Aella due to her signaling that she is not interested in a romantic relationship, but she still values the deep intimacy that comes with the job.

Q&A

  • What is Aella's approach to research and reporting?

    โ€” Aella has a refreshingly honest and transparent approach to research and reporting.

  • Can anyone do science?

    โ€” Yes, anyone can do science if they have curiosity and approach it humbly and earnestly.

  • How does Aella view illusions created to cope with mortality?

    โ€” Aella believes that people create illusions, such as religion, capitalism, and relationships, to cope with the terror of death.

  • Are free will and consciousness measurable?

    โ€” No, free will and consciousness are two topics that are too fuzzy to be measured.

  • Would Aella press a button to have all her wants fulfilled?

    โ€” No, Aella would not press a button to have all her wants fulfilled as it would lead to a lack of appreciation and potentially psychopathic behavior.

Timestamped Summary

  • ๐Ÿค”
    00:00
    Combining optimism with striving for improvement creates a more intense vision of a better future.
  • ๐Ÿค”
    33:24
    After being raised in a sexually repressed environment, I found freedom through exploring my sexuality and eventually becoming a cam girl.
  • ๐Ÿค‘
    1:01:58
    Camming, OnlyFans, marketing sex work, creating an app, designing a survey, and escorting all involve different skills and can be financially rewarding, but come with their own unique challenges.
  • ๐Ÿค”
    1:52:37
    Exploring emotional reactions to conversations, understanding the difference between friendship and relationships, and discovering the complexities of love and polyamory can help create meaningful connections with others.
  • ๐Ÿค”
    2:17:38
    Polyamory requires communication and transparency, and a survey of 500,000 people found a correlation between tabooness and popularity of various fetishes, with women being more likely to be submissive than men are to be dominant.
  • ๐Ÿš€
    2:53:27
    Bought a plane ticket to meet someone I didn't know, and it changed my life as I gained a sense of agency.
  • ๐Ÿค”
    3:21:49
    Exploring random questions to uncover natural spectrums, the ethical implications of lying about body count, the usefulness of talking about the past, the pros and cons of increased sexualization, the possibilities of transhumanism, and the desire for imperfections in relationships.
  • ๐Ÿค”
    3:52:05
    Rationalists strive to think clearly and without bias, and the meaning of life is to want things and search.
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