Improving Relationships with Yaser Al-Hazimi | Podcast Funjan

Building Strong Relationships with Allah SWT and Others

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  Relationships require a balance of strength and kindness, knowing when to use your sword and when to put it away.
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  The relationship with Allah SWT is the first and most important pillar in building successful relationships with others, as it affects our attitude towards his creations.
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  The mindset of focusing on Jannah (the afterlife) can help humans feel content and find comfort in difficult times.
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  Learning our limitations and boundaries is necessary for strengthening relationships with ourselves and others, as relationships are a constant state of approaching and distancing.
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  "Humanity is a burden and an obligation. That’s why good manners are the heaviest in our scales on the day of resurrection."
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  Contractualism is about breaking the cycle of reacting to each other's actions and responding reasonably instead to avoid perpetuating wrongdoing in relationships.
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  According to Ibn Al Muqafa, a true friend is someone for whom you are willing to give your blood and money, highlighting the depth of the relationship.
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  A dead relationship, where there are no demands or obligations, is not life, and a spouse is crucial for finding comfort and peace in life.
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  Relationships are like riding a bicycle, and slowing down or being inconsistent won't create them, but recovering from a fall strengthens the relationship.

Importance of Self-Acceptance and Improvement

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  The larger the void between who you are and who you present, the more depression, shame, and a sense of unworthiness you'll feel, which will affect your relationships.
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  Complimenting and developing oneself through small steps can help heal self-contempt and make one invincible to hurtful comments.
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  Self-acceptance is not about stopping self-improvement, but rather about loving and accepting yourself while still striving for better health and well-being.
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  To be a better person, you must be truthful to yourself in front of the right people.
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  Moral authority is the most powerful authority because it lasts, unlike other forms of authority that can change with situations and circumstances.

Understanding and Navigating Attachment Styles in Relationships

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  "The attached person is like a raging bull. It smashes everything in its way to the redness of its loved one. Looking back, he finds his family, friendships, and interests all ruined."
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  The avoidant person in an attachment relationship sets the attached one's heart on fire and enjoys the warmth, leading to extreme obsession and potentially losing everything.